This is the time of year where extended families who may only see each other twice a year come together. For many this means spending time with a psychopath. Remember if you can’t get away your best bet is to shun them. Always be polite but practice absolute minimal conversation. Give gifts, but don’t go out of your way. That becomes a conversation piece.
I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t forgive psychopaths. You should forgive everyone! It’s good for the metamind! If you think carefully about it, you’ll realize that this is forgiveness for them. A grudge would be screaming matches, passive agressive behavior, and a general thirst for vengence. No instead you are offering them, for a short time, the experience they long for the most in the world. What it’s like to have a conscience. You are simulating one for them, externally.
By giving them minimal interaction you are not presenting them with opportunities to manipulate you. In addition you are removing the risk for them every time they open their mouths. They can logically guess what the family is feeling, but since they don’t have the music, they can never be sure if they are singing the right song. Let them off the hook. Don’t make them sing in the first place.
Now in the peace of solitude they can build up the one tool they have, their logical mind. With a lot of this time to observe they might even get it right and treat people in a conscionable way once in a while, an outcome that is good for everyone.
Keep in mind there may be empathic family members who they have worked long and hard to program with external emotions. The best option is shun them too. Each situation is different, but the biggest risk is when the psychopath is actually present. Your empathic kin’s metamind will eventually recognize what is going on. They just need time untangle all those bogus emotions. To remove the bramble of imposition, and clear a path for coherent compassion.
Merry Christmas, and peace to all mankind.